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Connor is an amazing 12 year old boy with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and Autism. Duchenne will put him in a wheelchair between 10-12 and sometime in his twenties it will claim his precious life. The dreaded clock is ticking and before we know it, Connor will be immobile. Modifications are being made to make our home handicap accessible. To donate via GoFundMe: http://www.gofundme.com/drp2yw

Sunday, November 30, 2014

Providing for Six-Year-Old Connor Mullaly

‘…Guard me Jesus through the night, and wake me with the morning light’

By Doug Robinson

As he waves from the first-floor living room window of his Windham home, Connor Mullaly, 6, looks like any other young boy who has his whole life ahead of him.  Waving, and smiling, with a
Connor waves from his living room
window, as his parents remain in the
background wondering if help will be
coming sooner than later.
Staff photos by Doug Robinson
face full of hope and cheer, he peers sweetly out through the glass.  He loves to sign, dance and he loves to hug.  His smile gets even big
ger when he hugs.
Yet, after walking up the 26 steps to Connor’s bedroom, anyone easily  can see that the upcoming challenges Connor faces are not typical.  In fact, these new challenges are devastating.
The new wheelchair that will be coming soon will not fit up those 26 steps.  The stairs are too narrow.  No ramp can accommodate that ride for Connor because the front door is too narrow, and there are three turns to make in the hallway.  And, neither can an assisted chairlift raise that bundle of joy to the highest floor.  The stairway space is too narrow for that too.  And to make matters worse, the living quarters for the Mullaly family requires walking up seven steps to enter their Garrison-style home.
A short while ago, one person could easily carry Connor up those stairs.  It was a great ride because Connor would wrap his arms, hug and squeeze really tight, nuzzling all the way.  His hugs are a gift.
But he is a growing boy.  Today, Connor weights nearly 40 pounds, and the medical personnel who assist the Mullaly family has told them they are not allowed to carry an individual that weighs more than 40 pounds.  Bags of wheat, rice, dog food and even a five-gallon bucket of water weigh about 40 pounds.  Yet, the medical caregivers cannot carry a young child.  Liability is the reason.  What would you do?
So, each day, seven days a week, mom, dad, family members and volunteers all attempt to make life as normal as possible for little Connor.  He constantly has assistance at home, school, and when he can play.
Connor has a disease known as Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  One in 3,600 boys us affected by the genetic mutation.  Mom and Dad will face the unimaginable.
And Connor’s condition continues to worsen.  Diagnosed only four short years ago with Duchenne’s, he now begins to suffer further complications from Autism.  He is beginning to have difficultly retrieving words and becomes compulsive at times.  “We guess a lot and he is beginning to become upset when we do not know what he wants,” explained his mom, Kira.
“I am most afraid of the complications created by the steroids that Connor is required to take daily.  The lifelong steroid weakens his immune system which causes him to get sick quicker and pneumonia is a concern.  This concern grows as he grows too.  Eventually, his condition will require a breathing machine brought into the house to make sure that we can keep him breathing.
It was only nine years ago that the Mullaly’s considered their residence a dream home.  “We have thought about selling the house, but this is our home.  Our children love it here.  We have out Christmas’s here and we have our kids’ birthday’s here.  We need help.”
The family’s medical bills have continued to grow.  “Friends and family have volunteered to help build us a garage next to our house,” Kira continued.  “However, with the expenses of the medical treatments,  we are strapped.
“We need to protect Connor and we need to provide him with the opportunity to have access and egress from our home comfortably.  There is no way a wheelchair can be carried up 26 stairs to the third floor.  With this proposed garage, we will have the ability to set up a room above the garage for Connor.  We will install an elevator for him to use which will lift him to his new bedroom.  Also, we will have built an ADA-accessible bathroom adjacent to the bedroom for Connor to use.  Pretty soon, we will be carrying him there too.”
Trial medications for Duchenne’s are years away.  Medical bills rise while mom and dad continue to cope anddo the best they can for their child.  They are just trying to get through each day and make their child as comfortable as possible while he fights a fight that he never wanted for asked for.
The proposed garage will be built surrounding the family's
vehicles.  The garage will have an elevator which
will carry Connor to his bedroom, to be re-located
to the first floor.
Staff photos Doug Robinson
And, when Connor goes to bed each night, posts on his wall is a poem so rich in blessing.  It simply says, “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep.  Guard me Jesus through
the night, and wake me with the morning light.”
The cost of the house project has been estimated at $100,000.  “We have lots of friend who are willing the help.  We have had architectural plans donated and the town tells us we are good to go.  All we need is the supplies.  Maybe we could have an old Amish house raising.  Wouldn’t that be cool?”
In the meantime, the Mullaly family waits.  They wait daily, hoping that another shoe does not drop on their fragile world.  “Please help” . . . . Guard me Jesus through the night, and wake me with the morning light.”
For those wishing to make a donation, a trust fund has been established:  Connor’s Crusaders Special Needs Trust Fund, c/o Digital Federal Credit Union, 257 Lowell Rd., Hudson, NH  03051.
For those wanting to donate materials, equiptment, or professional services (electrical, plumbing, heating, roofing, foundation), email Kira at:  kmullaly@gmail.com.

Link to article:  http://goo.gl/KTB351

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Family wants a place for Connor to call home

Photo credit Cesar Sebastian

APRIL GUILMET
Union Leader Correspondent
Published Nov 19, 2014 at 10:04 pm (Updated Nov 19, 2014)

WINDHAM — Six-year-old Connor Mullaly has faced many hurdles in his short life, but that hasn’t stopped him from swaying to his favorite tunes.

It is unclear what the future will bring — or how many dances remain — for the blue-eyed Golden Brook School first grader, who was diagnosed with Duchenne muscular dystrophy at age 3.

One thing is certain, however: Connor will soon need a new bedroom. As he continues to grow, it’s getting increasingly difficult for his parents, Kira Mullaly, a software engineer, and Jon Mullaly, a paramedic, to carry him up and down the stairs of their two-level home.

Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD) affects approximately one in 3,600 boys. The incurable genetic disorder causes progressive muscular degeneration, eventually leading to paralysis. The average life expectancy for DMD patients is around 25.

The Mullaly family, which includes siblings Liam, 8; Declan, 5; and Keely, 3; prefers to focus on the promise each new day brings.

The couple, originally from Massachusetts, moved to Windham nine years ago to raise their family.

Several years ago, when Connor was experiencing speech delays and other symptoms, his parents brought him to their pediatrician. After lab tests revealed muscle trauma, Connor was transported to Dartmouth Hitchcock, where neurological and genetic tests confirmed DMD.

Kira Mullaly described her son as a happy child, one who was excited about his hospital stay as it meant staying up past his normal bedtime.

“For us, the news came as a huge shock,” she said. “But in a way we’re luckier than a lot of families, since this condition often goes undiagnosed for a number of years.”

The next two years were rough on the Mullaly family, as Connor’s parents struggled with the realities of the diagnosis. The family later learned Connor also has autism, and the little boy currently receives daily occupational, speech and physical therapy. Nursing staff regularly visits their home to help the family care for Connor, who currently shares an upstairs bedroom with his two brothers.

“He’s about 40 pounds now and is getting to the point where he’s too heavy to be carried up and down the stairs,” Kira said. Connor doesn’t know he needs a new bedroom yet, but his parents are guessing he’ll be pretty excited about it.

Perhaps not as excited as he was last weekend, when he had the chance to meet one of his favorite musical performers, DJ Steve Aoki, following a performance in Connecticut.

“Connor loves the beat and the fast tempo of electronic and dance music,” Kira said. “We don’t know how long he’ll be able to dance for, as his body begins to fail. But dancing with his favorite DJ is something Connor won’t forget.”

While Connor is currently able to walk, doctors have advised having him avoid the stairs in hopes of preventing additional muscle damage. Kira Mullaly said the family is now facing the options of installing a $10,000 stair lift system or building an addition on their home.

Adding a stair lift would be a temporary — and expensive — solution, Kira said, since their home’s front door would need to be widened to accommodate a lift system and the upstairs hallways aren’t wide enough to accommodate the wheelchair Connor will eventually need.

While the family has researched their options for grant funding, Kira said they’re currently stuck between a rock and a hard place.

“We’ve been told we need to have Connor’s room built before we can even apply for state handicapped-accessibility funding,” she said.

Family friends have already offered to pitch in with construction efforts, but donations of cash and construction materials are needed to begin that process.

In late August, Jamie Carreau, a licensed nursing assistant who helps care for Connor, created an online fundraising page, Connors Crusaders, on the Go Fund Me website.

As of Wednesday, donations totaled $2,115, though the goal is to raise $100,000.

Carreau said the situation is getting urgent, since many health-care agencies won’t allow their staff to carry a child weighing more than 40 pounds. “Something needs to happen soon,” she said.

All donations received will be placed into a special needs trust fund for Connor, allowing the family to begin the process of making their home more accessible to the boy’s growing needs.

For more information, go to connorscure.blogspot.com or email kmullaly@gmail.com.

Link to article:  http://www.unionleader.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=%2F20141119%2FNEWHAMPSHIRE09%2F141129933&template=mobileart

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Connor met STEVE AOKI!!! With pics and videos :)

Photo credit Cesar Sebastian
For a long time, Connor's favorite music has been EMD/Dance.  He loves the beat and fast tempo and the fact that he can move and dance to the music  despite his Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  Steve Aoki's music has been his favorite for equally long.  Connor got to meet him November 15th!  Steve was warm and caring with Connor and they even pretended to be in a Tornado together.  Connor loved every minute of it and it was truly a priceless experience!  Thank you so much Steve for a truly beautiful memory Connor will have forever!  We are forever grateful!
Kira and Jon

The evening started with Sandra from Foxwoods escorting Connor, Jamie (Connor's Aide) and me backstage to Steve's dressing room.  Sandra was wonderful with Connor even pretending with him in the elevator.  When we got to the stage there was a loud generator blowing up rafts.  Connor was scared and unsure of going by it so the guy turned it off so Connor would be okay.  This was just the first clue of what an incredible experience this was going to be.


Photo credit Cesar Sebastian
When we got to Steve's dressing room, Steve greeted Connor with a giant "Hi Connor!"  And Connor had the biggest smile I have ever seen and said "STEVE!"  It was the best moment on earth for him!  Steve started singing Connor's favorite song "Boneless" and Connor wanted to dance, but he also wanted Jamie to hold him.  Connor did get down and dance a bit with Steve Aoki--it was truly amazing!  They talked about their favorite songs (Connor changed him mind that day and said Tornado as his favorite) and Connor gave Steve a birthday card.  Steve really appreciated it and even told Connor it was the first birthday present that he'd gotten.  Steve loved stick figure Steve from the card and could tell it was him.  Connor was beyong thrilled.  They also discussed the other drawings on the card.




Photo credit Cesar Sebastian
Connor relaxed while we spent time with Steve.  An incredible ice breaker was Steve watching Connor dance to his song on YouTube.  Connor kept commenting on the video and described all sorts of things about it including his brothers and sister in the video.

For some reason we wound up on the floor and in the doorway but Connor seemed to be comfortable there so we didn't dare move since he was having such a wonderful time.  And the awesomeness continued!  Steve and Connor pretended they were in a tornado and Connor just loved it.  Then Connor turned the floor into a black hole and told us some cool stuff about that.




Photo credit Jamie Carreau
And then more amazing things happened!  Steve started calling so many of his friends and Connor got to talk to DeadMau5 on FaceTime (this is Connor's second favorite artist).  Connor was a tad confused because he's used to seeing DeadMou5 with his Mouse head on.  Steve and Connor were even taking Selfies and texting the photo to his friends including Tiesto (Steve did that song with him for Tornado) when Steve couldn't reach them.

Steve and Connor hung out on the couch too while Steve signed some things for us.  Connor wanted to sign some things too and took the same notebook (as Jamie and I hyperventilated) and started drawing.  Connor was even signing his name too--it was so cute!  Steve even call his girlfriend and Connor got to talk to her even pronouncing her name correctly.  Fun fact--Steve and Connor are both lefties!


Photo credit Cesar Sebastian
As we were getting ready to leave Steve offered Connor some fruit (Connor's favorite).  Connor chose an orange and Steve even offered to peel it for him!  Jamie and I peeled it while Connor and Steve just hung out talking about what they liked.  Connor finished the orange and it was time to go.  I could tell Connor was sad but he was tired too.  We took a few more photos and then off we went.  Of course on the way out Connor heard "Bad" by David Guetta (still have no idea how he heard it since it was so loud there) and had to dance to it despite being tired.  Dancing is what motivates Connor and we love watching every minute of it!



Maybe Connor will see Steve in the NeonFuture!


For more information about what we are currently trying to do for Connor (home modifications) you can visit GoFundMe:  http://www.gofundme.com/drp2yw

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Windham Family Looking for Community Support

The Mullaly family of Windham has been blessed with a beautiful family and strives to lead a fulfilling life enjoying all the activities a family of four children can.  They take everyday challenges and obstacles and work through them.

A medical issue has arisen and they are looking for community support.  After a visit for the nursing services they explained that their son, Connor, 6, who has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and Autism, is growing up and becoming too heavy for them to carry up and down stairs.

Unfortunately, their home is two levels and his bedroom that he shares with his brothers is upstairs.  The bathtub is also upstairs, which means that not only the nurses have to carry him, mom and dad have to carry him downstairs for meals and upstairs for bed.  As he continues to grow this is becoming more difficult.  While Connor still has some mobility going up and down stairs, mom, Kira, said, "We have been advised by Doctors to avoid stairs to prevent additional muscle damage so we have been carrying him.  So our options are to spend about $10,000 on a stair lift system (and have to modify our front door) or get his bedroom to the main floor which is what we were planning to eventually do anyway since a wheelchair wouldn't be able to fit upstairs."  Due to his growth spurt and medical devices he will eventually need, the time has become critical.

Although they have looked into grant funding to have this project completed, Kira said, "We have been shocked at the cost and the lack of grant funding for something like this.  Before we can even request state funding for handicapped accessibility, we need the room he will be living in, built."  They have friends that are willing to do the work, but the cost of the materials is an issue.  If anyone in the community, or outside the community, is able and willing to discount concrete, wood, siding, roof, garage door, etc, they would appreciate your help.  They have also been doing fundraisers, but as Kira said, "We desperately need the materials to start his bedroom now."

You can reach Kira at kmullaly@gmail.com - Monetary donations are also being accepted.



At the Common Man Breakfast that assists with MD are the Mullaly children.  Keely, 3, Declan, 5, Liam, 8, and Connor, 6 with DMD.  Connor is 6 and he has a smile that lights up the room along with many priceless facial expressions.  What he loves most in the world is music and dancing despite his disabilities.
Story/Mary Ann Horaj

From the Windham Independent November 13, 2014

To donate via Go Fund Me:  http://www.gofundme.com/drp2yw

Connor Met STEVE AOKI!!!!

For a long time, Connor's favorite music has been EMD/Dance.  He loves the beat and fast tempo and the fact that he can move and dance to the music.  Steve Aoki's music has been his favorite for equally long.  Last night Connor got to meet him!  Steve was warm and caring with Connor.  He was genuinely interested in him!  I will post pics soon with the full story!
Thank you so much Steve for a truly beautiful memory he will have forever!  Thank you so very very much!  We are forever grateful!
Kira

For more information about what we are currently trying to do for Connor (home modifications) you can visit:  http://www.gofundme.com/drp2yw

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Join us for the First Annual Connor's Crusaders Golf Classic


First Annual Connor's Crusaders Golf Classic

Monday, September 22nd 2014 at 8:30 AM
Hillview Country Club
149 North Street
North Reading, MA 01864

Join us for the First Annual Connor's Crusaders Golf Classic! Connor has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and Autism.  Duchenne will put this lively six year old in a wheelchair between 10 and 12 and will be fatal in his twenties. This event is to help defray Connor's medical costs and home and van modifications.
  

The cost to participate is $135 per person or ($540 for a foursome).  There is a cash bar for dinner and no alcohol is allowed on the course. This includes:
  • The Course Fees
  • Golf Cart Rental
  • Buffet Dinner

Make checks out to Connor's Crusaders Golf Classic.  Deadline for payment of foursome is upon registration.  If you don't have a foursome please contact an organizer and we will put you with a remaining group.  There are no refunds issued.  To pay by Paypal, please click the Donate button.

      

Contests include:
Longest Drive
Closest to the Pin
Putting Contest   
There will be some amazing raffle prizes as well!


Chris Jenkins (Primary)
978-995-3309
Bobby Whittredge
978-729-8940
Cheryl Bartkiewicz
978-808-0193

Please note that we are not a non-profit and the donation is not tax deductible.  We are simply a family that is trying to raise money to defray medical costs.